Despite all of the recent hysteria over young women ruining their lives by delaying marriage and "hooking up," a new survey suggests what most people probably already know -- women (and men) still value an emotional connection when it comes to their sex lives.
A recent Durex survey of 2,000 men and women (all of whom were at least 25 years old) found that 87 percent of women reported that their "hottest sex" was with a partner who they trusted and had a prior relationship with (a.k.a. not a random one-night stand with a stranger), reported Glamour. The vast majority of men (95 percent) also agreed that an emotional connection makes a sexual experience more satisfying, and both genders said they cared more about satisfying their partner than themselves.
This suggests that women -- and men -- are ultimately looking for more than a hookup with a stranger. The survey doesn't indicate whether these hot sexual experiences took place in the context of serious relationships or in the context of casual relationships that still involved trust, but it means we probably don't need to be wringing our hands over the romantic priorities of people in their 20s and 30s.
In her book "The End Of Men," journalist Hanna Rosin argued that early-20s hookup culture actually benefits women in the long run and does not preclude them from finding a long-term, emotionally satisfying relationship later on. "Ultimately, the desire for a deeper human connection always wins out, for both men and women," she wrote in an excerpt printed in The Atlantic in September 2012. "Their hookup years are likely to end up as a series of photographs, buried somewhere on their Facebook page, that they do or don’t share with their husband -- a memory that they recall fondly or sourly, but that hardly defines them."
It seems that if women and men are searching for something deeper and more satisfying (both physically and emotionally) than a series of casual hookups, they will find it eventually.
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
9 minutes ago (10:44 PM)
Flirting starts in the mind.
调情始于心
Angelic Dove l
15 minutes ago (10:38 PM)
I would say unconditionally love also goes with that.
我想说无条件的爱也是这样的
F Tracy
22 minutes ago (10:31 PM)
I'll keep this in mind for my wife and mistresses.
我会为我的妻子和情妇牢记这些的
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
25 minutes ago (10:28 PM)
as i read the posts i see a lot of Men are sure enjoying huff post Women's section
读了这些评论，我肯定很多男性很享受阅读赫芬顿邮报的女性专栏
Ten ntile guy
1 hour ago ( 9:44 PM)
I GAVE UP ON SEX, I WAS TIRED OF HEARING THE WOMEN SAY "OMG" OVER N OVER N OVER, I DO ALL THE WORK AND HE GETS CREDIT?
我放弃性了，我厌倦了女人一次次的喊“OMG”了，我干了所有的活而他得到了赞誉？
Lani kai
1 hour ago ( 9:42 PM)
Best sex is on the beach period
最好的做爱体验是在沙滩上，仅此而已
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
1 hour ago ( 9:34 PM)
My position with my spouse regarding trust is straightforward "I will trust you completely until you give me good reason not to". I don't hang around with folks
Georgia Platts
2 hours ago ( 9:23 PM)
I asked men and women whether they wanted more casual sex or deep relationships. Here are some of their responses: http://broadblogs.com/2011/04/01/sex-many-partners-or-deep-connection-readers-discuss/
Not marco rubio
2 hours ago ( 9:21 PM)
the best sex I ever had was with a woman who had previously been my best friend..............now she's BOTH my best friend and best lover ever!
我最好的做爱经历是与我之前最好的朋友……现在她是我最好的朋友，也是最好的爱人！
L A guy
2 hours ago ( 9:15 PM)
I sure hope the other 13% like giving oral sex.
我确信其他13%的人喜欢给别人口交
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
3 hours ago ( 8:22 PM)
In all my years I've never had a one night stand. Once I almost did, but then I drove about 400 miles back to her house and spent a nice week together followed by more visits.
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
3 hours ago ( 8:17 PM)
I don't trust any man.
我不相信任何男人
Len ape
3 hours ago ( 8:13 PM)
I like this kind of sex too.
I also like that kind of sex.
Oh, and that other kind is pretty good too.
我喜欢这种性
我也喜欢那种性
噢，其实另外一种性也相当不错
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
3 hours ago ( 7:57 PM)
Sex is beautiful and natural and it's the most wholesome things money can buy.
性很美丽，也很自然，这是金钱能买到的最有益健康的东西
(re HUFFPOST SUPER USER)notthereyet
3 hours ago ( 8:01 PM)
Not sure how wholesome it is if you're buying it...
(回HUFFPOST SUPER USER)我不确定既然你是用钱买的能健康到哪里去……
Cha Cubed
4 hours ago ( 7:13 PM)
I wouldn't have sex with someone I didn't trust.
There were a few men I trusted immediately. ;-)
我不会与我不相信的人做爱
但是有一些男人我会很快相信的。
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
4 hours ago ( 7:38 PM)
my current relationship began this way. what i thought would be one night has turned into five years and the strongest, most amazing relationship i've ever had.
haters gonna hate, but i certainly don't care ;)
Frances Cunard
4 hours ago ( 7:08 PM)
For women: oral sex is better than penetration
对女性来说：口交要比插入式好
(re Frances Cunard)Pavane E
4 hours ago ( 7:13 PM)
Frances, are you by chance a New Yorker?
(回Frances Cunard)Frances,你是碰巧成为纽约人的吗？
(re Frances Cunard)solid liquid
4 hours ago ( 7:22 PM)
Both is better. And that is what I do every time.
(回Frances Cunard)都很不错，我每次都这么做
(re Frances Cunard)Mary l NOLA
3 hours ago ( 7:50 PM)
Exactly. Why limit the fun?
(回Frances Cunard)确实是这样，何必限制乐趣呢？
Banana spider man
4 hours ago ( 7:07 PM)
Is the story implying the best sex is in committed relationships? The story seemed to be saying two different things.
这个故事是想暗示最好的性是在忠诚的关系中的吗？这个故事看起来再说两件不同的事情。
Going Places
4 hours ago ( 6:59 PM)
Survey was conducted at your local retirement home.
这个调查肯定是在你当地的养老院进行的
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
5 hours ago ( 6:28 PM)
Been married for three years, and the lovemaking just gets better every time. We trust each other with everything so yeah, I'd say I am in on that 87%.
我已经结婚三年了，每次的做爱都变得越来越好，我们相互信任，我想说我就是那87%中的一位
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
5 hours ago ( 6:25 PM)
I've found too many one night stands lead to too little orgasms.
我发现太多的一夜情会导致性高潮的减少
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
5 hours ago ( 6:23 PM)
Even on one night stands, I don't think I ever had sex with a person that I did not have a sense that I would like to spend more time with them. I've always used the term "real people" when referring to my sex partners.
就算是一夜情，我也不认为自己会与不太交往的人做爱，我一直用“真实的人”来描述自己的性伴侣
Not the re yet
6 hours ago ( 5:41 PM)
We are gonna have hot sex, trust me ;)
我们会有亲密的性生活的，相信我吧
HUFFPOST COMMUNITY MODERATOR
6 hours ago ( 5:37 PM)
I think sex with someone you have a deep emotional attachment for is far more satisfying for the body, mind and soul.
我认为与有深度情感联系的人做爱对人更加有益，不管是身体上，思想上，还是心灵上。
(re HUFFPOST COMMUNITY MODERATOR)desert dweller
5 hours ago ( 6:02 PM)
Sometimes deep emotional attachment follows great sex.
(回HUFFPOST COMMUNITY MODERATOR)有时候，有深度情感联系的人会有激情的性生活
HUFFPOST COMMUNITY MODERATOR
6 hours ago ( 5:29 PM)
Connection and openness are what it's all about -- it's the root of good sex.
联系和开放就说明了一切—这是有好的性生活的关键
Deer Slayer site
6 hours ago ( 5:02 PM)
sex, and intimacy are better with real people that you really know. wow, who new?
性和亲密最好与你真正了解的人进行，哇，谁知道呢？
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
7 hours ago ( 4:39 PM)
I like the girl who dresses and leaves quickly after
我喜欢脱衣服快，离开的也快的女孩
(re HUFFPOST SUPER USER)alley panther
7 hours ago ( 4:40 PM)
...as long as your wallet doesn't go with'er.
Ten ntile guy
1 hour ago ( 9:44 PM)
I GAVE UP ON SEX, I WAS TIRED OF HEARING THE WOMEN SAY "OMG" OVER N OVER N OVER, I DO ALL THE WORK AND HE GETS CREDIT?
我替楼主说了 满怀信任钱包还被偷了 简直太变态了
